Hate the urgings of self-will. (RB 4:60)

Self-will is having full control over one's life. My choices are made with only my benefit and convenience in my mind.

Communal existence requires the merging of my individual goals with the goals of the group - the common good.

These strong words of Benedict about self-will are best interpreted in the context of removing a serious obstacle to my spiritual growth. They are not about devaluing my personal worth. They are based on the recognition that my progress in the monastic life is the work of God and as long as I keep some aspects of my life in my own hands, I am liable to put myself outside the path that God has for me - eternal life.